6 THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T SAY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Some people don't think saying these things mean anything...it's not that serious... They assume once you say it and say sorry bygones will be bygones....but no! Your partner will always remember your words. Don't let any amount of see-finish make you start saying these yamayama things and if you already do, please stop!

INSULTS
...Like "goat", "idiot"," mumu", "fool" ....mba nu. Don't do that. For some people calling someone "goat" is not a big deal....you might have done it growing up with your siblings or your close friends but please leave it there. That is abuse...e nor good.

SHUT UP
Shey your spouse/partner is a ta-ta? Are you in a relationship with a toddler? You shouldn't tell him/her to shut up. Communication is very vital in a relationship and if you get it wrong o tan niyen. Give your babe/bobo opportunity to speak and when they have aired their opinion you can talk your own. Don't shut them up. It only builds resentment.

WHATEVER
Ehn? Woreva? Please don't say that. It is dismissing whatever the other person is saying, no one likes to be dismissed like that. It is RUDE! You should not be rude in your relationship. If you like what you are building, then build it well.

IT'S OVER
Don't say it unless you really want it to be over. Not every small quarrel over who ate the last meat in the pot should warrant an "Its Over". If you keep saying this 2 things will happen: 1. Your partner/spouse will become very insecure in the relationship because they don't know if you're coming or going. 2. They will never take you seriously and begin to look elsewhere. Don't throw "It's Over" around.

COMPARISON
"Look at so and so", "why can't we buy a car like Mr and Mrs B", "Why can't you be romantic like Mr Somebody." Don't do it. Comparisons in that manner are not healthy. It would make your significant other think you prefer whom they are being compared with. It's never a nice feeling. It can mess with their self esteem.

NOTHING
You know something is worrying you but when your partner asks you say "nothing" and then keep sulking. This will only push them away unless you have someone who is patient enough to coax you out of that mood. But once he/she knows that is your usual manner of saying "nothing" when truly there is something, they will stop asking. You can say "I'm not ready to talk now, maybe later".

I hope these gems help you build better relationships?